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Should parents SCARE or MANIPULATE kids into doing what they want or are these outdated techniques that don't actually work?
The technique of SCARING OR MANIPULATING KIDS INTO DOING WHAT YOU WANT has been around from the beginning of time. Parenting expert and one of Canada's top Parenting Coaches who specializes in children's behaviour and discipline - Julie Romanowski has a heated debate with iHeart Radio host Bill Carroll (of the the Morning Rush) on this topic that you don't want to miss!! It starts off with the controversial and viral videos going around of parents beating their child's stuffed animals as a way to make them eat their food at mealtimes but it doesn't end there. This is a debate of two very different opinions of two people of two different generations.
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This is not a SCREEN TIME SUMMER kids! - Parenting Coach encourages Parents to help their kids find alternate ways to entertain themselves that doesn't include a device.
SUMMER BREAK IS HERE! …...and there is nothing kids want to do more than spending their entire days (and nights) on their favorite screens! But hold on, a parenting expert says "NO WAY!" and that we parents have to encourage our kids to not solely rely on screen time to 'entertain' themselves or to have alternate options for 'relaxing' and calming down. Julie Romanowski is back again on the Global TV National News 'ask an expert' segment sharing more tips like these on summer screen time!
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Disturbing new practice Parents use to encourage kids to eat their food - children's behaviour expert 'dishes' on how messed up this really is (CTV News)
Alert!!: be aware of a disturbing new 'practice' that parents think is great but is actually really detrimental to kids! It's the viral videos going around on the internet about how parents will demonstrate IN FRONT OF THE CHILD an aggressive beating of the child's beloved teddy bear/stuffie. Although I fully understand that it can be extremely challenging and frustrating to get your child to eat healthy food and to eat their meals quickly, parents have to be very mindful of how they "encourage" their child to eat as the long term impacts can be devastating! Julie Romanowski discusses with CTV News what these long term impacts are as well as positive solutions to help encourage children at the dinner table.
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Understanding the REAL problem behind 'limiting' screen use in children and teenagers - Julie talks with Toronto Global News Radio
Listen to Parenting expert and educator, Julie romanowski speak with guest host Adrienne Batra on the Alan Carter Radio show in Toronto, Ontario. Julie offers unique insight on the REAL problem about why limiting screen time is so challenging and it has nothing to do with the typical issues. It is something that has been overlooked and has to do with kids being autonomous and able to regulate themselves well.
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"ASK AN EXPERT" segment on Global News TV Morning Show in B.C. invites Julie Romanowski to be the top parenting expert
Julie Romanowski is British Columbia's top parenting coach who specializes in children's behaviour & discipline! She has been invited 6 times to be one of Global TV Morning News - 'ASK AN EXPERT' series. Keep your eye out for Julie's next appearance on the show, you won't want to miss it!
Find the ACTUAL meaning behind the negative behaviour and THEN apply the correct technique in order for it to be effective
You would never give 'cold/flu medication' to a child for a broken leg, so why would you apply a disciplinary technique like 'time out' to a child who has made a mistake? Children need to be taught by their parents/teachers/educators/caregivers the difference between RIGHT and WRONG in each situation and scenario. Never assume they know or that it is obvious. Kids have so many things going on in their worlds that they need that #1 person in their lives to help them through the storm so they know for next time what is expected of them. This also sends a very strong energetic message to them that 'they matter' and have worth and value because you saw the importance to teach them correctly.
3 TIPS TO BE MORE EFFECTIVE IN DISCIPLINE
1.) Stay CALM & NEUTRAL: our own emotions and stress need to stay out of this area....always.
2.) Focus on finding the MESSAGE behind the behaviour: children's behaviour is communication...always.
3.) Stay CONNECTED & emotionally available at this difficult time: kids need you to re-connect with them when they have made a mistake, acted out inappropriately and are vulnerable....always.
For more support and coaching in this area or others, please contact Julie for more info.
There has been a lot of controversy around competitive sports both in school sports and extra-curricular sports and the culture around 'winning & losing'. Many parents believe their children should learn these sports along with all the benefits of interactions, fitness and team work however, there is a grey area for kids who aren't good or can't perform well in these organized sports and shouldn't be put on the spot or shamed because of it.
Interactions with other children are extremely important for good development however, nothing should ever be 'forced'. Unfortunately in the school system has a curriculum to follow to help kids learn certain skills and the physical education curriculum has an even more specific goal. What are your thoughts on kids physical activities and the expectation to perform in games such as dodgeball or competitive sports?
Julie Romanowski weighs in on this topic about the options around this outcome and how we can be inclusive and yet still offer the same benefits of competitive sports.
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Mommy burnout is a real thing and unless you've experienced it, you have no idea what it's like. The amount of stress that we are all under as a society is through-the-roof and that coupled with the speed to which we have to perform can be challenging at best, on a good day. When we add in parenting, a job, housework and family management - this is a recipe for a disaster and it usually lands on the lap of the most generous and kind......Mother.
The amount of INVISIBLE work that Mothers endure (and that's not to leave out Fathers however, the majority of this lands on the Mother) is like no other. It is rarely recognized, not validated, heavily judged and comes with basically no benefits. We need to start acknowledging this area of life and bringing light to it's darkness. Starting with awareness and then hopefully action along with supports, will make this burden in life be a little less heavy and perhaps even put out some of the flames.
If you are experiencing 'burnout' in your life whether it's in the household, in childcare, in the classroom or at work, contact us for a complimentary phone call to discuss options to ease the burden and get things back-on-track!
School is ending and Summer is starting! Tips on how to create expectations for kids around this transition.
End of the school year is fast approaching and next thing you know, it's summer break! It's important to start thinking about that transition and let children know about expectations surrounding all this change.
5 KEY TOPICS TO DISCUSS
You can always add to this list and keep an on-going checklist to remember which ones you have discussed or not. Children crave structure and do really well with direction with flexibility and choices. Prepping for the summer break transition can really make or break the joy of the season!
Create a family MEDIA PLAN to manage screen-time use - Parenting Coach offers tips for parents to consider on the topic of screen use
Screen-time use in adults AND children has become a real problem in many households around the world. Even though experts at the pediatric society have made recommendations on the amounts of time for screen use in each age category, it is still a huge issue between parents and kids. One of the most important things to do as a family is to create a MEDIA PLAN that includes all rules and expectations for each family member to help create a security net around this issue to help prevent it from 'slipping down a slippery slope'.
5 TOPICS TO INCLUDE IN A MEDIA PLAN
As parents, we are being watched all the time by children. Being a good role model by obeying the family rules and managing your own screen use is one of the most important things to be mindful of. Kids do as they SEE, not as they are TOLD.
For more info on this topic or a customized MEDIA PLAN for your family, contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Punishments & Consequences are dated discipline practices that cause harmful long-term effects and no longer work - Miss Behaviour
Punishing children and/or giving consequences for their 'bad behavior' is a dated practice that no longer works for kids in this day and age because life is not the same as it used to be. The stress levels alone for young people is more than it ever has been before and when you mix high stress levels with punishments it becomes a recipe for disaster! More children are reacting to being punished in aggressive or violent ways because of the anger and resentment that builds from the PERCEPTION of not being heard, appreciated or understood. Pressures to perform perfectly while constantly being rushed with just trying to keep up with the speed of life, is pushing most kids to the 'boiling point'. This leaves Parents without the necessary know-how and confidence to address their child's behaviour or challenges. This doesn't mean do nothing - but rather we have to bring forward the methods and strategies that helps children learn, become good regulators and autonomous individuals that demonstrate empathy and compassion for themselves and others.
Miss Behaviour parenting coach helps parents understand behaviour better as well as provides insights and knowledge for them to navigate around the pressures that surround their children and themselves.
To learn ways to CORRECT a child's behaviour OR to understand the meaning behind the child's behaviour, contact us for more information.
"Giving children 'detention' is an out-dated technique that is ineffective and harmful," says Discipline Specialist from Vancouver, BC.
Fewer children are being given detention which has many parents wondering if schools are doing enough when it comes to teaching their children discipline. Canada's leading parenting expert and parenting coach discusses with J'lyn Nye from CHED 630 afternoon news in Alberta about the negative impact of this dated technique. Julie also discusses what to do instead and offers insight into why children are acting out and causing more harm then ever before.
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Young adults celebrate after graduation as they enter the workforce and bring along the life skills needed to succeed no matter what they choose - Global National News with Julie Romanowski
Are we suppose to encourage teens to go to higher education such as college & university or are we suppose to help children follow their hearts desire no matter what they choose to do with their future?
This is a very interesting topic that has a lot of people talking because the old norms of forcing your teenager to go to university are no longer. Times have changed and many young adults are not able to go or even want to go. Can they still have success? and should we celebrate this decision? For some, entering into the workforce is the right decision. Read the article featured in the Global National News with Julie Romanowski discussing some of the positives and negatives of this new thought for our young people.
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Violence in the classrooms among young children is increasing dramatically! Children's behaviour & discipline specialist weighs in on this topic and shares workshop presentation to support solutions.
This article goes into depth about the level of VIOLENCE in young children at school. This is a common issue for teens and young adults however, it's happening now more and more to children in the early years. Even as little as three years old, children are demonstrating severe aggression, lack of empathy and violence towards their peers, themselves and the teaching staff.
I had the opportunity to speak to a large group of Teachers & Early Childhood Educators in twice this year about how we as a group can help decrease some of these challenges. It isn't a one-size-fits-all solution nor is it something you can change in one day. What is necessary is to bring awareness, educate everyone involved about best practices as well techniques that are effective and then put an action plan into place. It's not going to be easy, but it will be worth it.
If you would like to know more about the transformational workshop presentation event that Julie Romanowski does around the world on this topic as well as many more, please contact us: 778-996-6535
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Children may 'miss the mark' on the bulls-eye but that doesn't mean they don't get to try again. Making mistakes are a part of learning.
Children learn in so many different ways. Making mistakes is an essential way all humans learn. When they make mistakes, it's like missing the bulls-eye on the target. Some times we will miss the mark but we can still try again. Helping children understand that there is 'learning' that takes place in mistakes AND allowing children the opportunity to make these mistakes without feeling ashamed or punished - is truly important and critical for development.
There is more learning in making mistakes then in doing things perfectly. In order to help kids learn and hit the BULLSEYE - it takes time, patience, guidance and connection - not punishment, consequences, time-outs or threats.
To learn more about this and how YOU can improve skills to help stay patient when children 'miss the mark, contact us anytime. This is what we do.
Sibling Rivalry is a big topic for most families! Julie Romanowski talks with the hosts of Parent Talk Podcasts
Sibling Rivalry is a very common issue in most families and can be very challenging for parents to deal with. Julie Romanowski joins Genevieve & Heather from Parent Talk Podcasts to dive deeper into this topic. She provides many wonderful and effective tips that address each part of this challenge including not being the referee, problem solving, validation, guidance and not getting annoyed. Get your pen and paper ready because we are blowing this out of the water!!
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Connecting to children when they are vulnerable helps them improve their own behaviour and make better choices NEXT TIME!
There is no better way to CONNECT to a child then being there for them and supporting them when they are vulnerable. This means when they are sad, upset, angry, ashamed or even embarrassed. When children make mistakes or react inappropriately, it's important to help GUIDE them through these challenging times as well as let them know what to do better NEXT TIME. Very often we are quick to scold, punish or lecture IN THE MOMENT but it is in the PATIENT GUIDANCE & CONNECTION that resonates with children and the place to which they learn, adjust and improve.
Fewer children are getting detention when they misbehave in class. Parenting expert in Canada lets us in on the secret reason why....
Detention is losing it's popularity among teachers and teaching staff because it just doesn't work! Lack of effectiveness is the main cause as well as the backlash from kids when they return back to class. Julie Romanowski is one of the leading Parenting experts in Canada and discusses with Meghan Collie from Global National News about why this technique is so ineffective and what we can do instead if a child is acting out in class or is being disruptive.
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Burnout Prevention Workshop for teachers, educators, caregivers, instructors and parents coming to Ontario
Working and living with children can be a very demanding job and with out the proper prevention strategies in place, it can lead to serious BURNOUT! This informative and interactive workshop is going to go into detail about how to become a more CONFIDENT LEADER, how to best manage CHAOS & NEGATIVE BEHAVIOUR as well as how to put prevention strategies in place. A 6 HOUR CERTIFICATE to use towards professional development are included.
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Teens pushed the boundaries too far at this restaurant that ended up banning them. Whose responsibility is it and what's the solution? A discipline expert weighs in on the discussion.
Canadian parenting coach & parenting expert talks to Global National News about how banning middle-school kids from restaurants is controversial but also is up to the discretion of the restaurant owner. Boundaries, clear expectations and awareness are all areas to be considered if someone is noticing unruly behaviour that may be disruptive or destructive to the patrons or employees. Even though parents are responsible for their children, it is the child's responsibility to problem solve and accept the consequences of their negative behaviour. Join in the conversation and let us know what you think and any experiences you would like to share around this topic.
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"Forcing a child to do something - is it a parents right or child's right?" This ear piercing incident with a Claire's Accessories store employee is sparking a huge debate
Controversy has struck again among parents about 'ear piercing' their child's ears. Would you do it if your child strongly didn't want them and started to cry and protest? It becomes a discussion about a child's rights and personal boundaries and knowing where to draw the line or not rather than just about jewelry. Julie Romanowski joins host Jill Bennett on CKNW 980 news talk radio on this topic plus much more. Have a listen and weigh in on what you think by posting in the comments section.
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Pediatricians warn against negative discipline and promote more positive discipline and guidance strategies. This is the exact service we offer to parents, teachers and caregiver.
Great news! Pediatric doctors are recommending to stay away from NEGATIVE DISCIPLINE and shift into more POSITIVE forms of guiding, caring and teaching children. Canadian Paediatric Society calls for a "....shift away from shaming, blaming and other types of negative discipline towards children." Many of us already know this however, it makes a HUGE difference that it is coming from the Paediatric Society based on their good reputation, research and accurate studies.
If you are wanting to know more info about how to make the shift into being a more CONFIDENT & POSITIVE parent, contact us anytime to discuss further. We offer a FREE initial phone consultation where we discuss things in greater detail as well as how working together will look as well as the plan for the future.
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Team building and Co-Parenting get a MAJOR boost by adding in the "Element of Development." - with Julie Romanowski
Bringing a team of members together for a workshop such as classroom colleagues, childcare staff, parents, and organization members for a relevant workshop is worth more than just learning new content, it builds the CONNECTION between these people and allows barriers to come down including RESISTANCE. The workshops we provide are an EXCELLENT way to cultivate this critical connection but it also gets everyone working on the SAME PAGE and what I call "Adding in the ELEMENT OF DEVELOPMENT." - Julie Romanowski - Copyright 2012-2019
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What is 'Snowplow Parenting' and why is it causing this generation of children harm? - Discussion between Lynda Steele from CKNW 980 and Julie Romanowski from Miss Behaviour
Snowplow Parenting is a hot topic lately in the news but it's not for a good reason. It's gaining popularity because of the negative effects it's having on children and young adults. This style of parenting is discussed on the popular talk show 'the Lynda Steele show' featured on CKNW 980 in Vancouver. Do you know children who have grown into young adults that aren't demonstrating basic life skills needed to survive in today's world?
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