Julie Romanowski (Miss Behaviour: parenting coach & consultant services) TV Interview with Harjinder Thind: 'Des Pardes' TV Show
Listen to Julie Romanowski's TV interview with Harjinder Thind on the 'Des Pardes' TV show on the Vision Channel. Discussions include how to deal with 'spoiled children', kids who are anxious, negativity as well as many other issues about children's behaviour and Parenting.
Survive the never-ending celebrations and plan ahead this Christmas Season. If you have a blended family and everyone wants to see you on Christmas Day, try to stay put and have them come to you. Or, if you decide to go to four houses in one day, plan for a gong show. Bring games and entertainment for the car. Validate your kids throughout the day and acknowledge their feelings. Bring items of comfort and security. Those things might not erase bad behaviour, but they will at least put things in a different perspective.
Burn off a sugar high by planning ahead for some creative outlets. Whether you decide to put a movie on or send them into the backyard, the key is to plan it in advance. The worst thing is trying to reason with a bunch of kids on a sugar high. When your kid is in a chaotic state, they have no logic.
Avoid the “say thank you” prompt as kids open or receive their gifts. It puts a lot of pressure on kids to 'perform' and can go sideways quickly. It can be very difficult for young children to understand the entire concept of giving & receiving. Children are sponges. From a young age, it's important to show them the attitude of gratitude. Take the lead on that and say: “Grandma worked really hard to come up with this gift. Let’s take a picture to send to her to show her how much it means to us.” When we do it, we’re teaching it. Just do it and do it joyfully. They absorb it.
Adjusting the Rules Successfully for Kids during the Celebrations - HOLIDAY STRESS GUIDE FOR PARENTS
Adjust your rules accordingly during any parties or holiday celebrations this year successfully. The holidays throw off normal routines, whether it’s what time they go to bed or the amount of screen time or sugar they’re allowed. Talk to your kids pre-season. Show them a calendar, and put a star on each day that you have an event. You’re giving them a heads-up that this is an exception. For example, when you go to Auntie’s house and she has pop, you could say "it's ok for you to have but it’s not going to be like this all the time."
Ward off the party tantrums that kids tend to have at the worst possible times. When you’re in the thick of things, it can be very difficult. Stay neutral as much as possible and acknowledge what the child is experiencing (whether they’re tired, hungry, overstimulated) but then follow through with whatever the boundary is. Maybe say, “I know it’s fun to run around with your cousins, but safety come first.” If they’re in a full-blown tantrum, take them to a quiet room until they calm down.
Getting your kids to fall asleep on Holiday Celebration Nights can be tricky.....especially with all the people, high energy and sugary treats! Let them know what will be happening beforehand in terms of bedtimes and routines and then validate their excitement. It’s a legitimate feeling—this excitement has been building for weeks! Avoid getting angry with them or using empty threats. Try to use a firm but friendly approach and stick to the expectations that going to bed is non-negotiable.
Check out the EXCLUSIVE interview between Miss Behaviour and the one-and-only 'Elf on the Shelf' - Santa's helper for figuring out who goes on the naughty & nice list every Christmas.
MB - "What are your predictions this holiday season?"
EOTS - "I believe this year is going to be challenging. Lots going on in the world and it's hard to keep up with all the new technology out there. Plus there was a shortage of candy canes this year.....it's going to be tough."
MB - "What are some fo the biggest behaviour problems and issues you've exprienced over the years?"
EOTS - "The biggy for me is not listening. Kids just tune out their Parents so much that it really drives a lot of traffic to the 'naughty list'."
MB - "Well, you know I'm a Parenting Coach specializing in children's behaviour & discipline. How can I help?"
EOTS - "We really have to colab and work on Parents and kids connecting more with each other. We all seem to be plugged into technology but there is such a huge disconnect in the world between people. We can do more on social media but will have to remember to limit screen time......am I right?"
MB - "What's your take about kids who get sad on December 24th when it's your last day and they won't see you till next year?"
EOTS - "Yeah, that one is a real bummer. It can be really hard to leave. I usually take a lot of photos and keep them visible so that I can always remember the good times. Sometimes I journal as well. I know, I know. Even us Elves gotta be mindful."
MB - "Biggest take away here for Parents?"
EOTS - "The holiday season comes once a year but your kids are yours forever and ever. Cherish them each and every day as you do your Christmas traditions. Connect to yourselves and your kids. They LOVE you so much......I can't get over all the texts and emails on how many Christmas wishes kids send to their Parents. It brings tears to my eyes, goes straight to the heart (sniff)."
MB - "Thank you so much Elf on the Shelf. You are a true inspiration! I will do my best to help you....help Santa....help the Parents....and of course, help the kids."
EOTS - "Anytime. Peace out."
MB - "Can we take a selfie before you go?"
EOTS - "LOVE elfie-selfies!!!!"
HOLIDAY HELPER SERIES - KIDS BEHAVIOUR TIPS FOR THE SEASON. "MISS BEHAVIOUR & ELF ON THE SHELF HELPING SANTA THIS YEAR!"
Has YOUR The Elf on the Shelf arrived today? Miss Behaviour: parenting coach & consultant services has teamed up with Santa and The Elf on the Shelf to bring you the "Holiday Helper" series!!! Stay tuned for tips & solutions to all your parenting struggles during the Christmas Season!
It may not be ideal, but sometimes Parents just need to go to the store......with kids. This tricky task is one of the most common complaints we get! Here are 5 of the best 'shopping with kids' tips to help Parents make it the best it can be.
1.) BEING WELL FED
Ensure everyone is well fed BEFORE you go. Hunger seems to strike more suddenly during shopping trips, especially in young children. Plan to have snacks & drinks while there but bring some with you as well.....don't just rely on buying snacks once there. There may be long line ups, forgotten wallet or it's just too far away.
2.) ALLOWING TIME
Avoid staying too long. Parents can feel tempted to stretch it out or convince themselves of 'just one more store....' however this is a pitfall many can fall into. Kids have short attention spans and when mixed with a very stimulating environment, this can be a recipe for disaster!
3.) ADEQUATE REST
Steer clear of fatigue by planning shopping trips away from nap or bedtime. Kids may 'seem' ok prior to the trip but remember it takes a lot of energy for young ones to achieve this great task which may bring on fatigue earlier than expected.
4.) KEEP FOCUSSED
Guard against distractions! Put the phone away and try not to go with any 'friends' that will pull your attention from your child. Kids usually don't like sharing their Parents attention and can really show it when you are in conversation with someone. Keep conversations with people you may run into short & sweet as well.
5.) DISCUSS EVERYTHING
Give kids the heads up as to what is about to take place. Discuss the who, what, where, when & why of the planned trip and what you are expecting from them.
These shopper-helper tips can definitely create a more positive experience but the biggest thing of all to remember is, you may have to just get up a leave if things aren't going well in terms of child's behaviour. A proactive approach is usually much more effective than a reactive one so plan ahead!